Yes, it is technically optional, but we often face bigger consequences for adopting a 'take it or leave it' attitude, or not allowing our boundaries to be crossed, unfortunately. And that's not optional. But I am also in the process of learning how to do it anyway. I think it's also important to keep pushing society as a whole to recognize that women asserting their personhood as staunchly as men do does not make them monsters. We need to change, but so do the expectations.