If you saw the words as black and white, you wouldn't be struggling. You're not reading the actual words but seeing them through your own emotions, and that's why you're struggling.

1. I said don't do nothing while a woman is attacked and THEN jump in to defend the man when she fights back.

2. You said but if I defend women, they yell at me. If women want to be seen as strong, they should take care of themselves.

3. I said, okay great! Stay out of it then. We will take care of ourselves. As I said, just don't jump in when we do to defend the man from us defending ourselves.

4. You've now changed your entire argument, which was originally that women should defend themselves if they want to embrace feminism to saying that actually all you want to do is defend women and don't understand why they won't let you.

I never said men should defend women. I never said men shouldn't defend women. I said men should not stand by and do nothing when women are attacked and THEN jump in when women fight back to defend the man who attacked first.